40 Days to a Better Me; Day 13–Don’t Be a Jerk!

The term “jerk” in slang is used to describe someone who is inconsiderate, selfish, cocky and insensitive to others. The term is synonymous with bastard, beast, bleeder and blighter (UK versions), scumbag, creep, and swine just to name a few. Though the word means to describe a quick motion, the word can also be used to describe an unlikable person, especially one who is cruel, crude, or small minded. Does anyone come to mind?? There is no doubt that at one time or another in your life, you have had to deal with a jerk. And, if you have not, beware: You will.

I often wonder does the jerk really know that he/she is acting like a jerk. What does a jerk look like from their perspective? Is it possible to run rough shod over people, treating them unkindly, verbally abusing them and never have a clue that such behavior is intolerable? Does the jerk feel he/she has some sort of justification for their disregard for employing people skills?

Here is the truth: Jerks live in their own little jerk world and their minds have been twisted by jerk logic. There is no reasoning with a jerk. They are the center of their universe and you are simply an annoyance to them. So quit trying to change them! I have found that there is only one person I have the power to change: Me. So, rather than waste my words and time on a pointless to crusade to rescue someone who does not want to be rescued, I will work on making me a better person.

You may have heard about the golden rule. It states: “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” That means we should treat all people the way we expect to be treated. We should interact with people the way we want to be interacted with. It is a good rule to quote but can be a hard one to follow.

The writer of Hebrews suggested that we treat people with dignity because we may be entertaining angels unaware (Hebrews 13.2). Meaning we never know who we may be dealing with. This comes from the Jewish Kabalistic tradition of the lamed-vavnik –that there are 36 righteous people on whom the fate of the world rests. If one of them were to perish, God would destroy the world. They can appear as anyone so we should treat everyone as if the fate of the world rest on them. Makes you think doesn’t it.

Mean people suck. They live mean lives. The think mean, eat mean and even sleep mean. What is the purpose of all of this pent up meanness? I don’t know. Nor should I worry myself trying to figure it out. I have discovered that I have the power to change only one person: me. There is nothing I can do about the mean guy. So, I will live my life giving dignity and respect to all. Doing this will make me a better person.


~ by DanielToops.com on March 25, 2011.

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